Marrow

July 18, 2016
In this profound and ultimately uplifting memoir, Omega Institute cofounder Lesser (Broken Open) shares the experience of becoming her younger sister’s bone-marrow donor after the sister’s recurrence of stage-IV mantle-cell lymphoma. The procedure is Maggie’s only hope of survival, though it comes with risks. Early into the search for a donor, Lesser, one of four sisters, turns out to be a “perfect match.” Lesser takes readers through the sisters’ childhood in Long Island. The four girls are the offspring of “zealously unreligious” parents (a Jewish ad salesman and an English teacher raised by Christian Scientists). Lesser has always been “a spiritual seeker,” and Maggie, a nurse practitioner, is the more pragmatic sib. Whatever their differences growing up, the bone-marrow transplant brings them closer together; they even visit a therapist to confront any past misunderstandings and emotionally prepare for the procedure. Along with a memoir of family love, fortitude, and healing, Lesser offers advice on living a soul-centered life, on how to talk to cancer patients, on how to live with authenticity, and on many other topics. She also provides a fascinating explanation of the bone-marrow-transplant process. Though the subject is somber, Lesser’s outlook is hopeful and sometimes humorous; she describes the four sisters dancing in the treatment room, sharing reminiscences of their parents, finding moments to be lighthearted. Readers will be inspired by Lesser’s wise and loving approach to both life and death.

July 1, 2016
Omega Institute co-founder Lesser (Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow, 2005) tells the story of the profound emotional journey that ensued after she became her sister's bone marrow donor.The first time the author's sister, Maggie, was diagnosed with cancer, she beat the disease and went into remission. But seven years later, it returned with a vengeance. Doctors told Maggie that the only way she could survive the disease a second time was through a bone marrow transplant. When Lesser learned that she was her sister's genetic match, she was overjoyed. But she also realized that donation--which would not guarantee that Maggie would live--would mean examining the tense relationship with her sister. "We [had] spent most of our lives circling around each other," writes the author, "each of us feeling imperfect in the mirror of the other's lives." Both sisters began therapy to sort through the conflicting emotions they experienced in the shadow of Maggie's disease. Lesser learned that Maggie saw her as "the big sister...the smarter one, the one going places," while she reveals that she envied Maggie for being the lovable sister who lived an authentic life. Realizing that neither was perfect, the sisters forgave each other. This opening of hearts in turn led to a deepening of the bond--made physical through the transfer of Lesser's stem cells into Maggie's body--they had with each other. Ultimately, the transplant did not save Maggie's life. Yet rather than view this outcome as a tragedy, the author chose to understand it as a gift that not only expanded her heart, but also showed her that love was the most powerful "adhesive force" in the universe. Drawing on Zen philosophers like D.T. Suzuki and alternative medicine advocates like Deepak Chopra, Lesser offers a soulful blend of life lessons learned and spiritual wisdom that reads like a balm for the soul. A searching, compassionate, and uplifting memoir.

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